Three Questions to Ask Before the Parent–Teacher Conference
The most effective conferences don’t start at the table; they’re a continuation of conversations already in motion. For parents of twice-exceptional (2e) children—gifted kids who also have learning challenges—that means laying the groundwork through a few clear, intentional communications in advance. Here are three key questions to raise before you sit down with your child’s teachers.
1. Have I shared the most important things about my child?
Don’t wait until the conference to provide critical context about your child. Consider creating a one-sheet—a short, structured profile listing your child’s interests, strengths, and needs—before the meeting. There are many one-sheet templates online, or you can create one yourself. If your child is 2e, you might like to try our free 2e 101 Student One-Pager. On the front, it provides an easy-to-read snapshot of what your child needs, how they learn best, and, perhaps most importantly, what thriving looks like. And on the back is a simple 2e explainer, to help teachers understand what’s behind any surprising behaviors they might be seeing in the classroom. Sharing this type of information ahead of time opens the door to deeper problem-solving during the meeting itself.
2. What is the team at school seeing that I should know before we meet?
If your child is having challenges (or successes!) in the classroom, the conference shouldn’t be the first time you’re hearing about it. As an example, our teachers share their observations with parents in a one-page document ahead of conference dates. But even if your school doesn’t have a formal process for this, you can still ask for brief progress notes on strengths, growth areas, and recommendations. Having this information ahead of time prevents surprises, and ensures you don’t spend the whole meeting catching up; you can focus instead on questions, insights, and next steps.
3. What does my child want the adults to understand?
Your child’s perspective should guide the conversation, not be an afterthought. Before the conference, ask them a few simple but revealing questions:
- What’s going well at school right now?
- What feels hard, and what might help?
- What’s one thing you wish your teacher understood about you?
Bringing their words with you not only adds depth to the discussion, but also shows your child that their voice matters—that adults are listening and responding.
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